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What does it mean to be civil? Journalist Steven Petrow looks for answers in the original meaning of the word, showing why civility shouldn't be dismissed as conversation-stifling political correctness or censorship. Learn three ways we can each work to be more civil — and start talking about our differences with respect.

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36 Comments on 3 ways to practice civility | Steven Petrow

  1. Discover Your Awesomeness // 4th March 2019 at 4:59 pm // Reply

    *Don’t underestimate the value of doing nothing, of just going along, listening to all the things you can’t hear, and not bothering. %*

  2. He can do asmr

  3. This ted x making perfect life to every one

  4. Daily Dose Of Reddit // 4th March 2019 at 5:04 pm // Reply

    What do cannibals call athletes?
    Fast Food.

  5. i hope you called the police so he doesn’t kill someone else

  6. Well said! You can think different without being personal about it! Not everyone is an idiot just for being civil (or uncivil).

  7. Escape2 Eden // 4th March 2019 at 5:15 pm // Reply

    Poignant. Bravo

  8. #4, Get therapy and/or medication for your NPD.

    • “Symptoms include an excessive need for admiration, disregard for others’ feelings, an inability to handle any criticism, and a sense of entitlement.

      Yeah that’s why he based his career around other people’s feelings. Boy, you sure know what you’re talking about.

  9. Peggy Harris // 4th March 2019 at 5:24 pm // Reply

    “Don’t mistake decorum for civility.” That’s a keeper.

  10. Busted American // 4th March 2019 at 5:24 pm // Reply

    Civility is dead in the age of Trump. Toss on top the fact social media holds trolls and antagonists in esteem. Civility is no longer the norm. It’s a weakness.

    • Busted American // 4th March 2019 at 8:03 pm // Reply

      +mhtinla umm no, it’s not perspective at all. It’s about facts and policy stances. As that’s what determines where a person, group, or organization falls on the spectrum. Not something as silly as perspective.

      No, actually the earth itself appears to rotate. While the rest of the cosmos minus the other planets that stay in roughly the same orientation. If it didn’t appear this way then star navigation wouldn’t be a thing.

    • There’s no fact supporting the statement “Civility is dead in the age of Trump.” It’s just an opinion reflecting a certain perspective.

    • Busted American // 4th March 2019 at 8:32 pm // Reply

      +mhtinla there’s lots of facts supporting my opinion (yes, it’s an opinion but a fact based opinion none the less). You can see it almost every comment section online across every major social media platform. You can see it in everyday discourse with friends and family across the nation. You can see the break down of civility in essentially every aspect of our lives here in the US. In fact the video presented above is showing how it’s breaking down. The evidence is everywhere and you would have to be blind or willfully ignorant to deny it.

    • How do you know your fact-based opinion is not confirmation bias? The only way to differentiate the two is to exhaust ALL facts, which is an impossible task. So it basically comes down to our little bubbles fed by the media we believe. People like Jussie Smollett understands this confirmation bias on the left, and play into this bias well.

    • Busted American // 4th March 2019 at 9:05 pm // Reply

      +mhtinla I gave you several examples and you just flippantly brushed them aside as implied confirmation bias. Ignoring the fact we all see it happening and has been going this route for over a decade. Trump’s era just pushed it over the edge and we’re on the way down at terminal velocity right now.

      You stating we have to exhaust all facts is nonsense. It puts a unobtainable requirement on the situation to affirm it as reality. Which is silly beyond measure.

      I don’t do media and I certainly don’t adhere to a specific bubble. In fact I don’t conform to norms and on purpose. I like facts and deal in those, not in partisan and ideological narratives.

      Jesse Smollett didn’t play a partisan side of the political spectrum. That’s nonsense in the extreme. He played the awakening our society is undertaking in realizing that people of color are systemically persecuted based on nothing more than our skin tone. I know very conservative and even uber right wing ideologues that are now admitting to the injustice POC have endured for generation upon generation upon generation. They still try to excuse it and play narratives to explain it, but they are slowing owning we really need black lives to matter as much as white lives.

  11. Right on the money

  12. Chaz McGooski // 4th March 2019 at 5:33 pm // Reply

    TED=Technology Entertainment Design

    Not fuzzy social science and gender/race politics.

    • Chaz McGooski // 4th March 2019 at 8:51 pm // Reply

      Brenda Rua Ahh the spread of ideas, no matter their validity! 8-10 years ago you could watch these and know you were getting something of high quality everytime.

    • Chaz McGooski // 4th March 2019 at 8:57 pm // Reply

      oninoyakamo Haha I suppose so, my idea of entertainment isn’t listening to a moral gatekeeper virtue signal and claim he found and answer to everything “civility”.

    • You have a point! Good for you! The rest of us liked it.

    • oninoyakamo // 4th March 2019 at 9:52 pm // Reply

      ​+Chaz McGooski I too miss the TED of 15 years ago, when there was one a year. Much like the advent 24 hour news channels, with the removal of that restriction they lost some vitality. Yes, it has allowed TED to delve into more niche topics; sometimes it’s beneficial, sometimes it just feels like time-filling.

    • +Chaz McGooski I have a very simple solution. If you don’t like it, don’t watch it.

  13. Truth seeker // 4th March 2019 at 5:52 pm // Reply

    Newspeak… I think it’s almost here can’t say anything without offending someone nowadays!

  14. You should’ve posted this talk on Fox News, aka the most savage of all the news networks.

  15. K. David Woolley // 4th March 2019 at 6:16 pm // Reply

    13:33 There at three private contractors for every US soldier out on missions, they are mercenaries, do not follow the geneva convention or are protected by it. What’s more is they don’t have to be reported, so when there are listed 400 troops remaining in Syria quadruple that number and that’s how many US troops are still there. Torture is against the geneva convention, so it gets rebranded enhanced interrogation. I’m really happy you were able to sit down with a hostile customer and have enough of an exchange to know one another, I do fear though that there is a spiralling away from civility, and that trying to keep to it only helps those with which you might have conflict with. Example: “The Alt-Right Playbook: Introduction”

  16. Your Favorite Lifecoach // 4th March 2019 at 6:28 pm // Reply

    *The concept of civil is beyond us. Everyone is upset about everything.*

  17. guyaneseangel1992 // 4th March 2019 at 6:53 pm // Reply

    The scone story makes me happy

  18. LPT : Download TED Talks so you can watch without the horrors of the comments section 😀

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