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How revenge porn turns lives upside down | Darieth Chisolm

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What can you do if you're the victim of revenge porn or cyberbullying? Shockingly little, says journalist and activist Darieth Chisolm, who found herself living the nightmare scenario of having explicit photos taken without her knowledge or consent posted online. She describes how she's working to help victims and outlines the current state of legislation aimed at punishing perpetrators.

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55 Comments on How revenge porn turns lives upside down | Darieth Chisolm

  1. Vaultedpower ELRICS // 14th November 2018 at 8:27 pm // Reply

    First and yeah this is a huge issue

  2. 10,000 Subscribers With No Videos Challenge // 14th November 2018 at 8:27 pm // Reply

    Time to delete my history…

    • Dark Light Motion // 14th November 2018 at 10:06 pm // Reply

      +Tamara Smith Maybe id get it if I were a native speaker or, Im asuming american, right? Could you please tell me werd the pun, which im sure it is lies. Or maybe it lay in the past, you zombie resurection… But again, the shamans arent really upright about it. Still please explain your joke.

    • They’re talking about internet browsing history. Zombies are dead people that are reanimated.

    • Rest in peace is a term we use for things that are dead.

    • +Dark Light Motion “Rest in peace” is often used on graves or said aloud when someone dies. Deleting computer history is like the history dying. But in zombie movies people come back from the dead, and if you don’t delete something from your computer correctly there are back-up copies stored, because many programs include instructions to create them in case your computer crashes & you want the information restored. So the information was “dead”, but now is not, like a zombie. Therefore a criminal could find it & use it against you.

  3. DiscoverYourAwesomeness // 14th November 2018 at 8:28 pm // Reply

    *To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all.*

    • Some are harmless collections ofdust floating about. That’s me, welcome to my dust life *intro music plays*

    • nice observation, dumbass. it’s not true though. life is pretty common on this world.

    • By “live” I assume they meant experience life in their own way, as they wish. Rather than just working in a job you absolutely hate and you just go on..or so I assume. Op?

  4. That’s horrible.

  5. be careful who you sleep with

  6. Jerome Ejercito // 14th November 2018 at 8:32 pm // Reply

    What a brave woman with Balls.

  7. happy to see TED Talks is still producing quality content

  8. Decentralized Insanity // 14th November 2018 at 8:35 pm // Reply

    I had some “explicit” material on my phone from my Ex.
    The day we broke up, I deleted everything out of principle.
    Even though I hated her at that time because of several reasons, there is a minimum level of respect you have to give, even to your worst enemy.
    I would never think about such a “revenge”..its the lowest thing someone can do. It just shows how weak you are as a man.
    I didn’t even want to own those pictures and videos anymore for myself. That chapter was closed and we move on.

  9. When I first clicked on this, I expected it to date from a few years ago. I was curious to find out what progress had been made in fighting this scourge. Instead, I found that this is even more of a problem today, having passed from the headlines but not from the victims lives. Thank you TED and thank you Darieth for bringing this back to the spotlight. You are not alone.

  10. down with the eu // 14th November 2018 at 8:37 pm // Reply

    I was brought up in a family of three women,my mum and my two sisters,I was taught to treat women with respect and courtesy,I would NOT ask nor take any photos of that type.no woman should allow any man to take,or ask for any photo like that,any man who does ask,the woman should GIVE HIM A VERY WIDE BIRTH.

    • down with the eu Bless you sweetie. 🙂

    • I know Americans are very sensitive about this whole “I am a human but I am unable to accept to have a human body” – but please get the difference between a photo and an act of crime.

      What she describes is an act of stalking, breaking privacy laws, breaking the copyright laws, coercion. This has nothing to do with any previous act of violence and should be judged accordingly.
      It is more that the corresponding society is backward in regard to a usual naked body and places irrational psychological pressure on the victim.

      Nobody should be ever restricted to take photos of any kind – and there is definitely no need for moral implications. You never lost the license rights to those photos – so that when you have a hard breakup the actions taken by your ex-partner are already punishable by the common laws. Everything else needs a change by the society – not the legislation.

    • Isn’t this okay to do if both parties are consenting and okay with the exchange? I mean, rather than never exchanging media, if common decency dictates (counting on the basic silent agreement of not sharing said media with anyone else) and trust is built into the relationship, wouldn’t such exchanges be okay?

    • Mora Stakowski // 14th November 2018 at 9:44 pm // Reply

      down with the eu He took the photos while she was sleeping.

    • respect is EARNT not freely given for it to have true meaning.
      true respect takes time through friendship and companionship.
      never forget that

  11. Its not just women ffs

  12. Mashari Menawer // 14th November 2018 at 8:44 pm // Reply

    Brave lady and strong as your son said, bless you

  13. Wayne Middleton // 14th November 2018 at 8:45 pm // Reply

    Dont worry we wont have a country soon.

  14. Leland Martineau // 14th November 2018 at 8:48 pm // Reply

    Why does she want this to be a federal crime? All other domestic violence laws fall under state laws. I’m not sure if she is intentionally being misleading because some states do have appropriate laws

    • +Leland Martineau legislation in Europe is very diverse Hungary for example has one of the swiftest processes while in Germany up to 500 representatives votes are required on an issue before it gets to be singed by the president (one of the few things left to do in that office).

    • fiona fiona yeah our president is pretty much useless. He has to sign things and visit foreign countrys. Even though our chancellor and foreign minister do more of it. You still get a castle tho so I won’t complain…

    • It should be federal & international law because now that technology allows people to do this to you from another state or country you should still be able to get justice. If someone physically attacks you, the laws of whatever place the attack happened in are what apply, which is why criminals often flee to other juridictions or countries to avoid the law. Now the attack can come *after* they have gone to a “safe” place for them that has no laws to protect you. If someone in another country hacked your bank & stole your money, it’s a crime you would want punished, right? Assaults against a person are now being done the same way. If someone went to a country where there are no laws against hate crimes & then sends you threats, whether electronically or through standard mail, they can get away with it.

  15. I can’t listen to this she sounds like she’s about to cry during the whole thing

  16. Really you are a very strong women mam….my greetings to u and to the effort You are putting to help victims get throw the pain and the shame… Love from Algeria

  17. Brave woman!

  18. I thought it was Auntie Fee

  19. Now lets get a TED talk about how men can experience this as well. Women aren’t always the victims.

  20. TED my friend I see you playing the dragging video to 10 min mark game

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