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In this episode of The Charged Life, high performance coach and #1 New York Times bestselling author Brendon Burchard shares simple ways to deal with frustrating people (and yourself).
This is Brendon speaking freestyle, recorded in one take without prompter or notes. Post your comments and questions for him below, and he might do an episode answering your question freestyle.
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SUMMARY:
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1. Keep perspective… People are struggling just like you.
2. Ask, “Have I been truly clear with people about what I think, want, and need?”
3. Consider people’s confidence and competence before you judge.
4. Make dealing with others well and with patience part of your character development.
5. Release control.
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ABOUT BRENDON BURCHARD
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Brendon Burchard is one of the most followed personal development trainers of our time and a Top 100 Most Followed Public Figures on Facebook. A #1 New York Times bestselling author, his books include The Motivation Manifesto, The Charge, The Millionaire Messenger, and Life’s Golden Ticket. He is also the founder of High Performance Academy, the legendary personal development program for achievers, and Experts Academy, the world’s most comprehensive marketing training for authors, speakers, coaches, and online thought leaders. For these works, Larry King named Brendon "one of the top motivation and marketing trainers in the world."
After a car accident at 19 years old inspired him to turn his life around and follow his dreams, and then having the blessings to become a multimillionaire writer and trainer by the age of 32, Brendon has dedicated his life to helping others find their charge and share their voice with the world. His posts now reach more than 10,000,000 people per week worldwide, and he is the star and executive producer of the #1 self-help show on both Youtube and iTunes.
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Once again Brendon great advice at the right moment!
Hey man. I’m literally what you described. I have an IQ of 140, and lately I’ve denounced my friends for doing things that I would never do. I’ve become more anti-social than ever because I get frustrated with people I used to be around. Your videos help me keep my ego in check.
what made you announce your IQ? lmao
+namdar bleh (namnam528) Wow.. keeping ego in check… someone who is aware of that, is already not operating from the (mindless) Ego Self. Being aware is a great progress. 😀 Good one! The word is ‘asocial’ though. It suggests indifference to or separation from society. xxx
namdar bleh Dude, exactly the same here.
I go crazy when I’m interrupted again and again while I’m working on an urgent project. I’d love to help everybody but I need my work to be done in time. And sometimes I see people prefer asking for somebody’s help to doing something themselves just to make their lives easier.
Oh, and there is a colleague who I’d say is brilliant in finding questions which can easily frustrate you. So she will ask you the same question day after day and just watch you going mad. I tried to answer her question as I’d normally do to any other person. But the next day she asks the same question. I explain the situation in other words. The next day she greets you with the same question and you ask yourself whether she has a bad memory or is just kidding you. I tried to leave her question without any answer at all but it didn’ t help…
Tough stuff i think you should really take brendons advice and be clear with ppl,, for instance if someone asks you a question try and respond as best to your ability and politely explain your issue in finishing your project on a dead line and they most likely understand and didnt know how much it really bothered you really were in the fisrt place communication usually fixes things without ever being rude,, just think about how those ppl see you as a go to person and look up to you for resolving an issue and youll probly feel a bit better about it:)
Brandon a personal thank you for this messages. Today I praised God to give me back my good will to do things, in the latest days I was getting idle. For some reason, and I don’t know how, I found your video about “successfull people thoughts”, I really felt what you said so I opened your profile and clicked on this video, I felt it directed to me. So a deep, deep thank you for doing this for us humanity, we really need someone to remember us certain things which are stored in our heart, but we like to bypass them somehow. Today I finally finished the lyrics of my first song, which maybe I will put on youtube one day. This is what I will do. Music, I am a piano player and composer, and I will to everything it’s needed to fullfil my dreams. Thank you so much for your speech, I subscribed, you deserve attention because you really carry the power of Love and Unity, and it’s extremely important during this time of passage of human consciousness. If you will need original musics made with heart for your videos, or anything in your life… you know there is a young soul in Rome, Italy, who would be honored to cooperate with you, brother. I wish you the best in your life, much Love and deep Thanks !!! Mario.
I really appreciate the fact that Brendon’s videos dont have ads at the beginning… that shows true class when it comes to online video IMO. Thank you for setting the example with that Brendon, advertising is the biggest threat to the material on youtube.
Joseph James I think content like his would deserve a little as revenue
Wow. Brendon really put me in perspective with this one.. I’ve been thinking so much of myself with what I’m doing and how I want to be “different” that I’ve been creating a bad and un-relatable gap between me and others. Time for some change!
I See You !! +Kyle Gillis
cant help but i think this message is kinda dangerous – because it basically invites people to emotionally abuse and use you while you say yourself: “UNDERSTAND THEM”. i did this as good as i could for years and it left my mind pretty bruised…
After a while, it’s time to cut them loose…
Agreed. Are you supposed to stand there while they verbally punch you in the face and think to yourself, “It’s OK, maybe they’re just having a bad day?” Never worked for me until I started fighting back.
I’ve seen like 10 of your videos. I literally think this channel was made for me and I found it at a perfect time. Thank’s Brendon.
Film Magician I swear that i had never seen someone like him, i think he makes a incredible life change at people
So, what about abusive relationships? I am sure you don’t have people in powerful positions around you like fathers, bosses, etc who abuse you, but certainly we cannot just tell people in abusive relationships with drunkards or narcissists or control freaks manipulating them to be nice and be considerate about that person at the expense of their self, right?
I love this video
Thanks God for creating a man like you Brendon..you are very amazing person!!! Thank you so much for enlightened people around the world including me.
I’ve been in therapy for 6 months and this video gave me better advice than I got in all that wasted time with a certified counselor.
I admire your trust in humanity, but in my experience I found that at work some people are just deeply dishonest and greed and they don’t give a fig to run over other people and ruin other people’s careers if this can help them to get ahead and make more money. And they have a perfectly smoot life at home. I am sorry to say that, but some people are just really ugly, and that is the reality in which we live.
That’s exactly what I am seeing right now
I think he knows but if u are capable be better when u can.
Alisa S I strongly agree
He keeps talking about communicating and helping those difficult people understand but there are people who, no matter how much you explain something so simple, they never comprehend it. There actually are legitimately stupid people with severe mental deficiencies who are not being given the special care they need and running amok causing all kinds of problems. This advice will only work with certain people, but not with all.
true! there are a lot of people who just don’t care who think they are the best and just don’t give a F*** no matter how much you explain things. hard headed, impossible people.
you might be correct
Yeah, I deal with these kind of people (difficult people) everyday and it is very difficult for me to be a good person with them. I really try but some times it’s almost impossible.
belive it or not, my sister who is 21 and still lives with me and my parents is being so frustrating lately! Whenever me and my parents try to tell her that what shes saying doesnt make sense, she starts cussing at us and whenever i try to tell her something, she just mocks me. IN OTHER WORDS, SHE ACTS LIKE A 5 YEAR OLD. Then she goes around claiming that whatever were saying isnt helping her “anxiety” or “depression” which she doesnt even have. She doesnt even have a job, shes just a couch potato. When she is offered jobs, she never takes advantage of them! Im so sick and tired of her, I dont even know what to do anymore! Sorry, I just needed to rant a little bit, it really does help me.
Bingo LOL
I love how we always make excuses for terrible people.
I’m sorry, this really hasn’t helped me at all. My social anxiety and introverted personality are not the problem.
agree with some aspects of this.. but there are also some deliberately obnoxious spiteful people who go out of their way to be frustrating no matter how much we have helped them cos they r harbouring some resentment toward us.
BRENDON YOUR WORST VIDEO STAY AWAY FROM FRUSTRATING PEOPLE THEY WILL WRECK YOUR DREAMS YOU CAN NOT DEAL WITH THEM PEOPLE
I don’t believe in always appealing to a person’s better nature because they might not have one. I carry myself with basic positivity but if someone is a dangerous amoral adversary, I’m not above giving them a taste of their own medicine in spades. “We sleep soundly in our beds because rough men stand ready in the night to visit violence on those who would do us harm.” It’s not nice but that’s the way a lot of the world is. You have to be tough as well as kind and sometimes that means you have to end up dealing with some nasty stuff. That’s life.
this doesn’t make sense to me at all
helping people is a waste of time and energy 99% of the time
is what i realised and then stopped being so naive and as a result got frustrated with nearly everyone
explain that to me, because i don’t get it