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Modern love comes with an unprecedented list of expectations. Relationships can of course be a source of amazing connection and joy, but they can also be really hard. We want our partner to be our best friend, lover, confidant, coworker, therapist, and so much more. We want from one person what an entire village used to provide. To take it a step further, we want a soul mate; we want in another human what we used to look for in the realm of the divine. We want that person to help us become the best version of ourselves. I’ve been extremely lucky in my life with my career and friendships, but romantic relationships haven’t come easy for me. I was thrilled to take a deeper look at this part of my life in this episode with my dear friend Esther Perel.
Psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author Esther Perel is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on modern relationships. Fluent in nine languages, she helms a therapy practice in New York City and serves as an organizational consultant for Fortune 500 companies around the world. Her celebrated TED Talks have garnered more than 30 million views and her bestselling books, Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs, are global phenomena translated into nearly 30 languages. Esther is also an executive producer and host of the popular podcasts Where Should We Begin? and How’s Work? Her latest project is Where Should We Begin – A Game of Stories with Esther Perel.
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nice bracelet…accentuated by her gestures. kinda hypnotic. she sounds like a fortune teller though. hehe
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Is this English?
@Kristen Stewart No, it is international.
Or the marriage breaks up simply when the man desires a younger woman. My last 4 year relationship ended because of those expectations, the list becomes longer and longer. First it’s just let’s be together have fun
, support each other, be intimate partners in life. Intimacy stayed the same but then the list of all the things that he needed to make him happy grew very long. He claimed he just wanted a lover and a best friend confidant…But I then found out he wanted a mother too, a cleaner a cook a dishwasher, someone to give much attention to ALL of his needs. I have no interest in being anyone’s mother that’s when I lose interest and passion wanes. It takes time for men to show their true self and expectations. I suppose women too.
I agree. It’s really disgusting how so many men act dependent and childish. I have no interest in having a giant parasite in my life.
According to Helen Fisher, relationships last 4-5 years.
Ha, that’s about all I can manage.
She seems to be a **wonderful therapist – inspired, resourceful, dexterous, present. -Appreciate listening to her. Good choice, Mark.
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Per the studies of Dr. Ken Hammond, there are millions of American men who’s sexual relationship with their partners has been ruined by circumcision. Ablate the primary erogenous platform and hell can ensue.
This is great. And her reference to lying down to have the argument is a good point. Also, please have Dr.Gottman on too. He is great.
50% fail, because they don’t know how to submit to depressed enslavement.
The more female counselors, the greater the female expectations in the relationship! Self fulfilling prophesy. Lol
Thank you for sharing this!