What's the best way to get over heartbreak? Rapper and writer Dessa came up with an unconventional approach after a chance viewing of Helen Fisher's TED Talk about the brains of the lovestruck. In a wryly funny talk, she describes how she worked with a neuroscientist to try to get her brain to fall out of love with her ex — and shares wisdom about romance that she gained along the way.
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Yes. Selfishness is self destruction in slow motion.
I am still alive.
@Mihir Patel lmao
I don’t agree. Selfishness can be for your own good
@Sonia Thabet, when it’s for your own “good” then it is called something else.
Yes after all it’s a matter of choice. Love is also a part of life like career , health, security and so on.
Unfortunately, the modern notion of love has become symbolic of possession.
True love is an unconditional state of mind, without any selfish agenda.
I would argue, that the modern notion of love is exactly as you say.
It has been romanticed by modern society to some kind of altruistic state of being, while in truth it is just a mechanism to keep sexual partners together, as human children are quite demanding and have a long dependency phase.
The egoistic side of love is always and will always be part of the whole love mechanism.
@Gitbrenna Yet some of us love and choose not to be sexually active, or feel no desire to. So… it’s a matter of soul over ‘instinct’.
Absolutely
A greed.
@andybaldman ur incredible. Especially after watching the talk. Pimp named slickback motherf**er
I think that TIME and SELF LOVE can help you get over a heartbreak! What do you think? 🙂
@Lindsey Spiteri Bellizzi
Well, when you experience something and overcome it (or believe that you have overcame); if you see something is not truly right for how you believe/think, you simply jump onto it. xd
Ahah, yeah, you’re right. Definetely, that’s all about finding peace and happiness through spirituality…
Gökdeniz Özkan my definition is very broad! There’s obviously more to the book than just this
Sometimes learning about who a person REALLY is can help us move past heartbreak. Finding new love. Rekindling old love. And ABSOLUTELY some time spent learning how to better love oneself can help.
Ya just gotta be super careful your self love doesnt become a love of yourself.
@Lindsey Spiteri Bellizzi how didja know
this was my favorite talk in years lol… nueroscientists assemble!
nueroscience is my favourite siunse
free your self from part time things and paper rings!
Dessa gave a TED talk! OMG. I’m a have to listen to this later.
Read between the lines.
A year ago honey
I’ve been with my husband since we were 15 and we got married at 19….I have realized many times since then that as part of a couple you are often presented with opportunities to choose love. Therefore I believe you can also choose to fall out of love and many do when they believe (either correctly or not) that there is a better choice out there.
I’ve got about the same situation – we have chosen each other and chosen to love each other everyday.
When somebody chooses to fall out of love that means that they have chosen to stop trying to love that person.
Yes. Sometimes the better choice isn’t in choosing another person to be with but rather sometimes a better decision. A person’s perspective may have changed due to some unlikely encounter or experience and feel their life is on a path in a different direction that a spouse or significant may not want to travel but it would be disrespectful to just up and leave without discussing your thoughts and feelings to give them a chance to also make a sound decision.
Good job! I’mm still looking for a brain surgeon who is willing to take out the cavernoma in my brainstem.
This woman has inspired me so much, her music and overall existence has made me a better person.
hey interesting fun talk! I was pleasantly surprised 🙂
I wonder where my brain will light up while thinking about my dog… I wuff him so much! hahaha
Bet he wuffs you more
@Jesse W thanks for that comment!!!
There’s actually a study about that, apparently with women, love is all more or less on the same level, love for your friend, partner, child or pet all appears to be the overlapping. Men however, experience love differently. Where women have a gradient love that overlaps mostly. Man have more structured love. Kind of neat stripes next to each other. The difference of a gradient and neat rainbow. English isn’t my first language so I don’t know how to explain in the right words. Seems to convert with the idea that women in general see in Grey and men in black and white.
@santanisme hey this sounds right to me, I wasnt sure if I am weird or what, but I know what you mean, its all grey maybe some darker, some less… Interesting!
Great tonal control…one of the best
Man, I wish we all had access to a team of neuroscientists to help us fall out of love. Sounds a lot easier than years of therapy.
true
Did you think this before fallen in love….?
You can do it on your own. We are responsible for our own lives. I’m doing it now and you can too.
@Liflow lol yes, I’ve done it before. It’s hard work! Luckily now not in a place where I need to.
@Kelly stay blessed my prayers are with you
Whoa, ironically I fell in love with this talk! Fabulous and informative
I’m hungry bruh. I bet my horns will light up when I see food ina bit.
So… for me it’s 10 years after a relationship and still pining for what could have been… this talk intrigued and explained… yet, alas, no help for individuals suffering the same debilitating condition.