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You may be familiar with the five stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. After decades of research and his own experience with tragic loss, grief expert David Kessler ventured beyond that classic framework and sought a sixth, crucial stage: meaning. He shares practical wisdom and strategies for anyone seeking to honor a loved one's memory and move through life in light of personal loss. (This conversation, hosted by TED curator Cloe Shasha Brooks, is part of TED's "How to Deal with Difficult Feelings" series.)
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Dear person, who reads it. Yes, I mean exactly you! Maybe we don’t know each other. Still, I want to say, that I believe in you! You will certainly achieve your dreams and your happiness! Just don’t give up and be honest with yourself! Now you have at least one person who constantly believes in you, which means you are fated to realize your dreams! No doubts here ^)
*Best wishes for you✌️ from a rising YouTuber….*
P.S: In the past, this message ☝ saved me from a lonely and unhappy life! I believe that for you this message at least will make a day! ^)
Hi
Thanks man
I hope it’s going better for you
All the best ❤️♥️
I cant stop crying. I do have ” Broken Heart Syndrome”. I am in so much pain. Im trying to incorporate my Horrible Grief into my Life….
I would like to honour your tremendous effort
David, I’m crying for your loss. You are a kind man. So kind you remind me of Mr. Rodgers.. I wish I was as strong as you…
Love your content!!! Stay safe everyone ❤️ ❤️
This was very validating ty
I like psychology, and this video is most useful for me.
I love psychology. I would LOVE to get my psychology degree but I don’t believe I have the strength to use it efficiently.
Thank you so much for enlightening us with such great wisdom
Thank you David, i found this very informative!!
Thanks a lot to Sasha Brooks for bringing up such a difficult issue
I would have liked David to talk about overcoming ones “guilt”.
After the loss of my beloved son Jerett, my husband asked me if he should hold the meds I happened to be taking at the time, giving them to me as prescribed. We both knew what he was trying to say.
I don’t remember it, but husband said when he and I were standing at Jerett’s casket, I was crying and kept saying, “Why didn’t he take me with him… he should have taken me with him.” It’s been 3 yrs, I still have not stopped crying. I think my guilt (imagined or real) keeps me from peace.
Did you mean you’re guilty because you said those things?
@Henry Chang …. My guilt lies with him taking his own life.
@Serendipity I’m sorry that I failed to understand it. And I’m sorry for your loss. I’m not an expert, but I found an article on Healthline titled ‘How to Stop Feeling Guilty’; I hope that will help you in some way. I tried to post this comment with the link several times, but it keeps disappearing.
Beautiful, Thanks Ted for this ❤️
After like 20 years, I don’t think it’s possible. But I’ll try…
I’m in the same boat.
I just lost my mother last Saturday. I’ve been taking care of her for the past 8 years, so finding this was exactly what I needed. Thank you so much & I’m terribly sorry for the loss of your son
Im sorry for your loss floyd … you are a good son and these 8 years spent taking care of your mother will bring you peace in this life and afterlife…
I am so sorry for the loss of your mom, Shea. I totally understand. I loss my brother (45) a year after I loss my mom (65). My dad out lived them over a decade and then he finally joint them. It still feels like just yesterday. You will always going to remember your mom and your loved ones that have passed on. There are times I’m still sad and missing them so much. It seems like I never stop grieving. Know that we are here with you, and also know that your mom is looking from heaven smiling at you and still a proud mom.
Thank you David, for sharing these amazing insights.