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How much do you think about your future self? If your answer is not much, you're not alone. It can be difficult to plan for a version of yourself you haven't met yet, says psychologist Meg Jay. Sharing how to close the empathy gap between you and your future selves, she outlines courageous questions to ask about how your present and future can align, so you can begin to achieve your goals. (This conversation, hosted by TED current affairs curator Whitney Pennington Rodgers, was part of a TED Membership event. Visit ted.com/membership to become a TED Member.)
0:00 Intro
0:13 The empathy gap between your current and future selves
1:55 Philosopher Derek Parfit: “We neglect our future selves because of some sort of failure or belief or imagination.”
3:00 How virtual reality could help you save for retirement
3:45 A Q&A with your future self
5:54 Get to know yourself anytime — age doesn’t matter
7:38 Next steps with your future self
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We’ll be lucky if we are still alive after 10 years
@njitram2000 which one? I keep switching between them.
@jason666king Couldn’t tell you, sorry. I’ve lost track myself
Then make the job to not die after 10 years.
The problem is, we WILL be alive in 10 years and much longer after that. I thought I’d be dead by 27 and I’m turning 40 in 6 months.
I’ve always enjoyed ted talks.
existencial crisis every night and battling dreams during the day
No need to have an existential crisis.. you are alive and you have inalienable rights to life, liberty, property, and pursuit of happiness that all demand you live for your own sake. Your happiness matters.. don’t sacrifice your values for other people’s vices, and then I bet those existential crises could become more manageable.
Check out “The Virtue of Selfishness” by Ayn Rand, if interested.. it truly helped me out of what I would consider to be a similar situation. I hope the best for you, take care.
If you want something in this life you can acquire it if you want it bad now hard work determination and believing in yourself will get you most everything you want in life and try to not do stupid mistakes
Get to know yourself anytime — age doesn’t matter
Essential questions to ask about that which you cannot know.
Love your videos!! Stay safe out there everyone ❤️
Road to 20 million!
At 31 I know I’ve f*cked it and the first minute has me feeling bad about myself already. Hope it gets more positive.
Nah, man. 31 is early enough to realise that you skewed yourself to the wrong direction. You can still start over! 🙂
Ehat happens when you run out of conspiracies because they all are coming true..?
*She’s just suggesting everyone to be more responsible for our actions and it’s reaction.*
This was brilliant. I’m 23 and I had sort of a wake up call at my birthday and I’ve started to take care of my body and mind more. I excercise and try to move more frequently and mindfully, I’m reading more books, and sleeping better. Investing in yourself is the best investment.
I’m searching for answers to this question.
How to live a life with no regrets?
This helped.
I absolutely loved the 2013 TED talk, so happy to see this follow-up popping up!
I read her book “The Defining Decade” and it really gave me insights on investing in yourself in your 20s. How your 30s look like are mostly as a result of how you spend those 10 years of your 20s. Great stuff.
FOLLOW THE SCRIPT, WELL-DONE !
Just more stress. More questions that are a waste of time. Life is living in the moment. Follow your heart.